Empty Nest Syndrome
I have just finished my first week of living in an empty nest and I am not sure how I feel about it. I am at once proud of my son for having the wherewithal to purchase a small townhouse at age 22 but worried that he is out on his own for the first time. He has a good job and works hard so I am confident that he is doing the right thing but at the same time he is my son and is used to being taken care of like most children of his generation.
Even when he was living at home we didn’t often see him. He was either working, in his room or out with his friends but just knowing that his presence was in the house made the difference. Now there is a marked change in the feeling around the house. Even when he was away at college his stuff was still in his room and we could rely on him to come home from time to time. He was still clearly living there but now his room is empty and there is an empty feeling in the house to go along with it.
I have had some time to prepare for this so I think I am handling it better than my husband who thought he would change his mind and rent the place out and still live at home. I knew that would never happen. Our son is grown up and wants his privacy and his own space and we must accept that. Now it is time for my husband and me to acquaint ourselves with each other. Perhaps this is the most difficult part.
We are older now and have changed over time. Our focus went from each other to the children. Now that the children are gone we are two different people who have to get to know each other all over again. To that end, we are taking a long vacation this summer and have plans to spend time doing more things together, something we haven’t done in a long time.
I don’t know how other empty nesters handle the situation but our son is nearby so we will definitely see him often. I will work at my job, at my hobbies, and spend time with my husband and enjoy my life the best that I can without my son in the house. I hope that we will get a dog as well. I miss my beloved Paddy still. Ultimately my life will go on but with just a little different focus.